Going home, I heard on the bus stop a conversation in which a woman commented to his partner that he felt comfortable with co-workers as these, he was treated with great delicacy . feel that they will protect and leave to advise on how do things on the job, after all they do to facilitate your work. In a nutshell that much attention to male child identifies with a delicate, beloved, respected and very feminine and eye! do not confuse that with Feminism.
Obviously, I started having a mental conversation with her, where she was responding in this way;
* You see, this femininity say be proud of being is in fact the whole appearance passive feminine woman submissive, incompetent, helpless, whiny, flirtatious, overly emotional, sexually passive where the last expected of a feminine woman is capable of getting something for herself .
The masculinity is for men, a means of defining themselves as aggressive executives, respected, strong, to be socially be above their peers, neighbors, and that under no circumstances must show their emotions, let alone publicly mourn, for they be labeled feminist men, gay or queer.
words, masculinity and femininity in our society are relational constructs. Is what we call identity gender, this is a person born with a particular sex, male or female but later will have to adopt certain behaviors or attitudes, a series of patterns that each culture awards each sex.
The reality is that the culture we live in and set limits our imagination, we think, act, and feel a certain way, so that makes it difficult or impossible for us to act or feel differently.
is masculine, blue tie, aggressive, successful, executive sober.
is feminine, pink, earrings, passive, secretary, frivolous gossip, use women's weapons.
In this way we were brought up the idea for us to assert that we should have a man to take care of us.
should think that since women have joined the workforce, these patterns assigned, not to be admitted, the woman is not passive or frivolous . Today, the man claims his right to be interested in fashion, decoration, and smeared care anti wrinkle face creams, anti marks without being branded a ladybug.
Obviously the differences are real and varied, but I think that to claim equal rights should start deconstruction of masculinity and traditional femininity since the uneven pace of gender profiles is difficult our lives, men and women, our relationships and our ability to develop as free individuals. need men and women both feminist feminist.
But then, what is be feminist? A feminist does not mean she hates men, and of course it is a tomboy or a lesbian. It causes me great sadness to see that in the popular imagination, a feminist is a woman who wants to be stronger than men, or who want to live without men or who wants to be a man, etc. Clarify that being a feminist is to consider their worth by itself, you want to be judged as an individual rather than as a member of a group with a single personality, one social function, you want to have the right to enjoy their own welfare .
As society continues on the assumption that a woman and a man should have different behaviors, it will be difficult for women we become Qualified, respected as such and to well with men, because the work of secretaries, hairdressers, dancers, nurses access veto them as socially are governed by gender roles which we are entitled.
We be feminists because employment discrimination and no support for working mothers is causing a drastic decline in the birth rate, this prevents our freedom of action, women are prevented, forced by circumstances to postpone motherhood, to opt for a single child or give it up because, reproductive years women are the development and promotion in his career. Women tend to be in a market where wages are lower and where there is less chance of promotion.
But the number one enemy of women are not fundamentally men, society in general, but themselves. 's best friend or foe of a woman, is herself, friends, lovers, family, can leave us or die, but we can not get rid of our ego.
hypocrisy, trivialization of self-worth, victimization, addiction male approval to disregard ourselves and to our peers, attachment to a dangerous concept of love, sacrifice, redemption of the mistress of her man, when we sacrifice our self-esteem, our assessment, our ego, our stability to a man we cry because we are not called, or because we leave, or because it is cheating, or did not value us, and we forget that no one can cherishing as we do not value ourselves.
fought for us, for our welfare, for them. For me.
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